It works, heres how I did it if anyone wants to try:
1: Delete your my.ini from your windows directory (either C:\WINNT or C:\WINDOWS)
2: Open winmyadmin, but when it asks you for a username and password, click cancel
3: in the my.ini editor in win admin enter the following code:
[mysqld]
# set basedir to your installation path
basedir=C:\Program Files\Abyss Web Server\database\
# set datadir to the location of your data directory
datadir=C:\Program Files\Abyss Web Server\database\data\
4: Close then re-open, and it should work.
(Thanks to TRUSTPunk for making me click cancel, and Mysql.com for the code snippet)